Boundaries are, quite literally, lifesaving tools. The problem is most of us weren’t taught anything about them nor how to use them wisely for greatest effectiveness.
Knowing when and how to set limits, reinforce them and re-work them as necessary, are not skills generally taught alongside parallel parking lessons. Most of us either learn them the hard way or we don’t learn them at all, which leaves us wondering why we feel like the human equivalent of mashed potatoes.
While it might sound harsh or difficult, the reality is that once you learn how and when to use boundary setting you’ll never look back. It really is a skill that anyone can learn at any time in their life.