Connecting the Dots 

No one ~ not me, not you, not someone who claims otherwise, gets through life without really tough parts. What I see as being ‘rumble strips’ ~ those parts where things get loud as you travel over them, your attention is pulled back to where it needs to be. 

And, just like any other endeavor we seek out, having the right tools to do the job makes it all that much easier. Now, it’s a poor craftsperson who blames their tools for their lousy job ~ it’s not the fault of the fry pan that the eggs were burned ~ but good tools, in the hands of those who know how to use them, make the task at hand that much easier to manage (think sharp kitchen knife vs dull.)

These are some of my favorites for keeping yourself on track. They are a set of healthy distractions and overall good mental health techniques. When you’re standing in the middle of big feelings, decisions and fears, there are strategies you can implement in this tool kit that can help ~ not to solve or answer for you, but help. 

Good Quotes

Do the thing you think you cannot do. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

This one step – choosing a goal and staying to it, changes everything. ~ Scott Reed

We do not remember days…we remember moments. ~ Cesare Pavese

Life is a daring adventure or nothing at all. ~ Helen Keller

When you find yourself going through hell, keep going. ~ Winston Churchill 


Puzzles are a fun and great way to grow and improve your brain’s capacity to function. Crossword, number, picture and jigsaw puzzles are all easy to find, popular and good for you. Think you don’t know how to do them? You might want to try again by doing them with someone; it makes a very different experience. You can also listen on Sunday morning’s to Will Shortz, a puzzle master, who plays an on air puzzle each week with a listener of the NPR show, Sunday Edition. The segment with Will usually airs between 8:30am and 9am EST.

Good reads

Reading is another great way to engage your brain, explore new ideas and begin to perhaps see things from new points of view. Here is a short list of some of my favorite books:

Oh the Places You’ll Go! by Dr. Suess, a quick but fun read.

Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides. Don’t be discouraged by the size ~ once you start it will be nearly impossible to put down.

Living on the Wind by Scott Weidensaul is a great way to put your life, the earth and many things we take for granted, into perspective.

The Music of the Bees by Eileen Garvin is a lovely piece of writing about grief, loss, healing and moving on, even when you aren’t sure how.

I can be reached at 914-329-5964 or through e-mail at when you’re ready to get some support, invest in yourself.